Several weeks ago I met with the midwife I was planning to have at my birth, and we we had a long and fascinating conversation. One of the things that I appreciated about when taking my detailed personal birthing history was how insightful her questions were. For example, when I detailed one very long and difficult birth in which the baby was asynclitic, she told me it sounded like a child who wasn’t ready to be born. And then she asked me about that child’s personality and way of dealing currently with new situations, and how it correlates (strong correlation). It was fascinating, and very much in line with my belief that every unborn child is imprinted at a deep level with the emotions his mother experiences during her pregnancy.
When I recently took one of my children for an appointment for reflexology, a meditation was played aloud during the session and the practitioner told me I would probably benefit by letting myself follow along with it, too. I told her that I already do regular meditations and surprised, she asked why. I answered that I have so many stresses in my life right now that I feel I have to make a conscious effort to stay emotionally balanced in order to be present for my family and myself in a healthy way.
After she finished the session, she asked me about how the pregnancy and birth of this child were. At the end of that pregnancy I had a lot of stress in my life and correspondingly, a lot of negative thinking. (Since then I’ve tried to be much more careful about my thoughts and feelings during pregnancy.) I told the practitioner, who knows that I’ve been recently dealing with some intense stresses in a very concentrated period of time, that this is a large part of why I’ve made a conscious effort to relax with meditations. I don’t want to imprint emotionally in a negative way on this baby. She immediately agreed with me that imprinting happens on the cellular level, known as cell memory, before a child’s birth, and becomes part of a child’s makeup.
It was very interesting to have had these two conversations with the midwife and naturopath. This is the kind of thing that people don’t talk about much, you don’t see much written about, because it’s not quantifiable. It’s something that happens almost at the soul level to a child, and is very real regardless of if you can see it or not. When I used to go to my chiropractor in the US, she did deep energy clearing at this level, which I appreciated. Now I don’t have access to that, but I did bring my Bach flower essence kit with me, and this is an ideal tool for facilitating soul level healing.
You know the saying, “You are what you eat”? I think it’s just as accurate, perhaps even more so, to say, “You are what you think”!